Headed out to run errands…………..Fun.
We went to the doctor’s office to pick up Beth’s leave of absence papers and took them to Walmart. Beth got to visit with a lot of friends, including her supervisors. They are ready for her to come back. Oh, and when we pulled into the parking space, another car pulled into the one in front of us. And the 2 lesbians in it began kissing. Thanks a lot.
It’s sad that Walmart can’t get good workers. There are a few, but the department manager told us she recommends people not make Walmart their career. But if they would pay more to those who deserve it, they would be able to keep good workers. Beth won’t stay there forever because it just doesn’t pay enough.
Beth didn’t get to see Jim. He’ll be sorry. She’s got to get back so she can keep Jim in line.
We talked about guys with the dept. manager, Callie. She said the one they call “Energy Guy” (because he works for Centerpoint Energy) has been in there looking for Beth. But Beth said she’s seen him with a woman and they have a child. So strike him off the list. She hasn’t seen either cop guy lately. There’s a really tall guy that works at Walmart and I pointed him out today, but she said he’s not the kind she should date. He is the one that helped her to her car when her back went out one day, though.
We told Michael to be on the lookout for cute, tall cops on his police force. But Beth said she doesn’t trust him to know what cute is.
Please pray for a teenaged girl that I use to keep. She was like a little sister to Beth. She will be 16 next month, and she has announced on her MySpace that she is lesbian. *Gag* She was with Beth the night she got hurt. We’ve taken her to church every chance we could get. But as she got older, and in high school, she began resisting. And now this. Beth said she had seen it coming.
Family Advocates Call for Obscenity-Law Enforcement
‘Today, we are declaring that we have not abandoned our culture to pornographers.’
Dozens of family advocates rallied outside the U.S. Justice Department in Washington, D.C., today to call for aggressive enforcement of federal obscenity laws.
Focus on the Family, Concerned Women for America (CWA), the Family Research Council and other pro-family groups participated in the event, which kicked off with a prayer breakfast and a mini conference.
Daniel Weiss, senior analyst for media and sexuality at Focus on the Family Action, said he hoped to send a message that family advocates have not given up in the fight against pornography.
“Today, we are declaring that we have not abandoned our culture to pornographers who viciously distort sexuality, tear marriages apart, degrade and abuse women, enslave men and prey upon and consume children,” he told the group. “The Department of Justice (DOJ) has a responsibility to the people of this nation. Today, we say to this institution with an unequivocal voice: ‘You are failing to execute justice, and this will not stand.’ ”
In the past six years, 70,000 obscenity complaints have been logged with the DOJ, without one prosecution. Matt Barber, policy director for cultural issues at CWA, said the days of looking the other way are over.
“It’s high time the welfare of families and children takes a greater priority within the Department of Justice,” he said. “The American people have spoken. The pornography plague on our culture can no longer be ignored. Federal obscenity laws are already on the books; they need only be enforced.”
Federal statutes and most states prohibit the sale and distribution of obscene materials. However, if those laws aren’t enforced, Weiss said, it’s as if they don’t exist.
“If we ignore the threat of pornography, we allow the sexual exploitation of women and children in the criminal sex industry to flourish,” he said. “We must begin to shine a light into this darkness wherever it exists, whether in the local strip club or porn shop, in a national hotel chain or satellite provider, in the local police station or even in the nation’s top law enforcement agency.”
While family advocates marched outside the Department of Justice, the Supreme Court voted 7-2 to uphold criminal penalties for promoting child pornography. The law sets a five-year mandatory prison term for promoting, or pandering, child porn.
FOR MORE INFORMATION
Read Daniel Weiss’ remarks on the war against pornography.
Ted Bundy confessed before he was executed for multiple murders that addiction to pornography fueled his violent behavior. Many viewers of pornography claim that occasional viewing of nudity will not turn them into serial killers. True, only a small percentage of individuals who view pornography develop addictions that lead them to violent behavior. Pornography, however, does pose subtle dangers worth considering.
In his book, The Centerfold Syndrome, psychologist Gary R. Brooks, Ph.D., identifies five principal symptoms of what he describes as a “pervasive disorder” linked to consumption of soft-core pornography like Playboy and Penthouse.
Voyeurism – An obsession with looking at women rather than interacting with them. Brooks contends that the explosion in glorification and objectification of women’s bodies promotes unreal images of women, distorts physical reality, creates an obsession with visual stimulation and trivializes all other mature features of a healthy psychosexual relationship.
Objectification – An attitude in which women are objects rated by size, shape and harmony of body parts. Brooks asserts that if a man spends most of his emotional energy on sexual fantasies about inaccessible people, he frequently will not be available for even the most intimate emotional and sexual moments with his partner.
Validation – The need to validate masculinity through beautiful women. According to Brooks, the women who meet centerfold standards only retain their power as along as they maintain perfect bodies and the leverage of mystery and unavailability. And the great majority of men who never come close to sex with their dream woman are left feeling cheated or unmanly.
Trophyism – The idea that beautiful women are collectibles who show the world who a man is. Brooks asserts that the women’s-bodies-as-trophies mentality, damaging enough in adolescence, becomes even more destructive in adulthood. Furthermore, trophies, once they are won, are supposed to become the property of the winner, a permanent physical symbol of accomplishment and worthiness. This cannot be so with women’s bodies.
Fear of true intimacy – Inability to relate to women in an honest and intimate way despite deep loneliness. Pornography pays scant attention to men’s needs for sensuality and intimacy while exalting their sexual needs. Thus, some men develop a preoccupation with sexuality, which powerfully handicaps their capacity for emotionally intimate relationships with men and for nonsexual relationships with women.
A few things to think about
- Professors Dolf Zillman of Indiana University and Jennings Bryant of the University of Houston found that repeated exposure to pornography results in a decreased satisfaction with one’s sexual partner, with the partner’s sexuality, with the partner’s sexual curiosity, a decrease in the valuation of faithfulness and a major increase in the importance of sex without attachment.
- A study conducted by Dr. Reo Christensen of Miami University in Oxford, Ohio, found that pornography leaves the impression with its viewers that sex has no relationship to privacy; that it is unrelated to love, commitment or marriage; that bizarre forms of sex are the most gratifying; that sex with animals has an especially desirable flavor; and that irresponsible sex has no adverse consequences.
- According to the book Media, Children, and the Family: Social Scientific, Psychodynamic, and Clinical Perspectives, research has shown that sexual arousal and accompanying excitedness diminish with repeated exposure to sexual scenes. As exposure to commonly shown sexual activities leaves consumers relatively unexcited, they are likely to seek out pornography that features novel and potentially less common sexual acts.
- In addition, in a series of studies, researchers observed numerous persistent changes in perceptions concerning sexuality and sexual behavior after repeated exposing (i.e., six 1-hours weekly sessions) volunteers to pornography. These include the trivialization of rape as a criminal offense, exaggerated perceptions of the prevalence of most sexual practices, increased callousness toward female sexuality and concerns, dissatisfaction with sexual relationships and diminished caring for and trust in intimate partners.
- In the book Back From Betrayal, author Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., asserts that for some dissatisfied people, fantasizing about affairs is the first step to a real affair. She suggests that the fantasization process occupies such a large part of a person’s inner world that little energy is left for the marital relationship.
- According to Francine Klagsbrun, author of Married People: Staying Together in the Age of Divorce, the reason marriage provides the greatest possibility for intimacy is because marriage is predicated on the idea of exclusivity. And one of the differences between marriage and other friendships is the importance of exclusivity.
- In the book, Men Confront Pornography, Michael S. Kimmel maintains that pornography is one of the major sources of sexual information that young males have about sexuality and is therefore the central mechanism by which their sexuality has been constructed. “Men can no longer hide behind pornography as harmless fun.”
- NCPCF in Action Special Report, July 1997. Published by the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families. Copyright © 1997 by the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families. All rights reserved. Used by permission.